Talking to teens in a gentle manner and via methods they understand, should help.
Try New Methods How do teenagers communicate with each other much of the time?
No self-respecting teen wants to be seen engaging in Facebook chat with a parent. It is so rare for teens to proactively approach parents, that when this step is taken it is something to be respected, whatever the subject matter; it may be a trivial issue or just general chat, but it’s opening the door for further talks when things do need to be discussed.
Once the ice is broken you can suggest continuing face-to-face.
Pam is the proud mother of two grown children, Lauren, who is a Special Education teacher in the La Habra School District and a son, Greg, who is a TV and Film editor.
She retired from the public schools to raise her family and has continued to work with children and families through various activities including serving as a PTA president, working with OC Philharmonic Association to bring music education to children and is serving in the youth ministry at her church.
Try reversing the situation by saying you need their help, perhaps to choose a new set of clothes, or to undertake a chore you’ve been putting off because it’s emotionally difficult for you.
Or, open up to them about something you’d like an opinion on.